I met my now-fiancé four years ago today.
At the time, I was living in Seattle. I loved my house. I was walking distance to work. I was hoping to find someone to share my life with, but I admit I thought/assumed that we would probably be able to do so in Seattle, in my digs.
Then I met Rob, who was just finishing up the UW Pharmacy program. Three weeks after we met, he went and got a job at the Port Angeles hospital. And that was that.
Now I am affianced, living on five acres in Port Angeles, and I don’t expect to ever live in Seattle again.
Not everything has changed – I still have the same job, and I still have my two kitties.
But four years ago there is no way that I could ever have guessed where I would be today.
I have a somewhat better chance at guessing my future four years from now, but it is by no means certain, and all sorts of things could shove it onto a different track.
I find this interesting for a couple reasons:
We cannot guess what the future will look like one year, five years, ten years from now with any certainty. And yet it is critical to think about it. Yes, you can plop along taking life one day at a time, and sometimes that’s all we can manage, but I think we’re most likely to get to a happy and satisfied point in life if we give it a little guidance. That means thinking about it.
But why is that important, if where we’re aiming is always going to be off?
Well, there may be a great deal of variance in the trajectory, but aiming will still determine roughly what direction we’ll be going.
Something catastrophic can always go wrong, but odds are that the major things guiding our path are our actions and choices.
That is true of characters in books as well.
They have dreams and aspirations – at least they should!
Of course, since the poor sods are in a work of fiction, it is far more likely that something catastrophic will happen to them, but their actions and choices still matter. At least they should!
At present I’m trying to decrease my MC’s “plop along” quotient and increase her “active choice” quotient.
I’m pretty happy with my own trajectory at present, so I’m generally content to “plop along” – but I’m trying to give it a little extra push, so that I can get where I’m aiming sooner rather than later!
It has been difficult getting that extra push in lately. Things have been very busy at work, and at home. Plus last weekend we trekked over to Eastern Washington to see Rob’s nephew in The Three Musketeers – hence the lack of a blog last week. The play was excellent, but it took more time out of a busy schedule.
My balance is pretty well shot for the next month, but at least I have that peak I’m aiming for. Hopefully I can keep on course during the nuttiness, even if it is at a snail’s pace.
I wonder where I’ll be in four years? Hopefully happy, settled in a contented life with Rob. Beyond that? Who knows!
Perhaps a book? Nothing to do but keep plopping!